Sunday, March 29, 2009

Long Overdue

So I've been meaning to blog, but one thing leads to another and it just doesn't happen.  So here it is just over 5 months since I wrote about being a wimp after surgery, and now I'm having it all over again in 3 days.  This time I'm going to have realistic expectations about recovery.

I am most excited to share that I went to work with James at his new studio yesterday.  He had previously had his studio in our house, and he was home most of the time.  Well, the past months he's been getting the new studio ready, in an awesome building.  This means he works roughly 15 hours every day.  But most of the hard stuff is done, and now he is up and recording.  So I decide to go "help" today.  But what I found was a wonderful surprise.   I'll get to that later.

So a little more of my update..

After the surgery, my recovery took almost 6 weeks.  I tried and failed to go back to the Sommerdorfs to care for Caden but lifting his 30+ pounds of dead weight proved to be too much.  They needed to find another caregiver, which I of course understood.

So I decide to do some soul searching.  Learning who I am in Christ, and who I am with Christ in me.  For more than 35 years.. I still didn't know who I was supposed to be.  With a lot of struggle, and even more prayer and with some help from Elizabeth Dungan, I know now that I have a purpose.  Sounds strange.. but most of what I "knew" boiled down to what I had an understanding intellectually, but not the practical sort of knowing that comes from God alone.

So, I've been praying about what I should be doing vocationally.  I have a lot of abilities, but what about a calling?  I've toyed with a lot of possibilities, but nothing seemed to be just right, or not the right time.  So fast forward to going to work with James.  I worked right along side him at the new studio, tracking a guitarist, and because James' new control desk is so awesome I could see exactly what James was doing, and he started to explain a few things to me.  We worked on about 6 songs today for this artist, and after he showed me the first time how to prepare the program to capture the session, I found myself able to talk him through the next 5.   I even was able to make some suggestions.. as in helping James as the producer of this album.  So I wonder... why shouldn't I work along side of James.. I have the best teacher, and he is my husband!!  I pick things up fast, and with both of us working on his projects, they'll finish twice as fast, and that means his 15 hour days can be scaled back with us sharing those hours!!

So I am excited.  I love the fact that I get help people take the songs God has laid on the hearts and minds of His people to be shared with the World.  And this also means that we will finally be able to start my first album.  (James will trade me studio time for scratching!  Boy how he loves to be scratched!  Or has he fondly asks everyday...  "Scratchie?")
This also means that James and I can be together all the time.  It's so awesome that my husband is my best friend.  I have a lot of great friends, but I can never get enough of James. 

Well, I promise to post more... and more often.   
Love to all,
Because of Christ...

Sunday, October 26, 2008

Surgery is not for wimps...Why did I have it then?

I thought that I could handle pain.  I thought that I could manage pain with minimal drugs.  I thought that I could get going again right away and not even blink.  I THOUGHT WRONG!

Well, it's been a week now and I am still not up and at it again.  I've not spent this much time doing virtually nothing for more than a year!  I haven't even left my house in days!   Can you tell that I'm about done with this!

I miss everyone.  I miss my family, the Sommerdorf's, who now have to plan another week without my services.  I feel really badly that I am not there for them.  Hale keeps telling me that it is OK, but I know that it is a burden for them to find alternate care.  I am thinking even now how I can make this up to them.  I miss everyone at church, all of them, all the churches and all the people.  I miss just feeling well enough to cook and bake.  I have taken for granted so many things.  I hope that I will keep my thankfulness going when I am able to be back and doing again.

Sorry that this is so disjointed.  I am currently on pain medications.  I am not responsible.

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

This I know!

I really don't know why things happen the way they do sometimes.  Most of the time, I just give it up to God, and let His understanding be enough for me.  But other times, I spend a lot of time pondering...what if...then what?  I know the pondering isn't a bad thing, but it is the worrying about what I'm pondering that is hard for me to let go.
My surgery went well, I'm really sore and tired all the time.  I've been exiled into "resting".  I can't do much other that walk short distances, and sit in bed or on the couch.  If you know me at all then you understand how my "forced" rest is a burden... But I know this one thing...
God is GOOD, all the time GOD is good.   So, I'll get a chance to do some great things... start writing the book... get our budget working... praying for people... oh lots of things I can still do!  
My prayer requests:
Safety for Rosie and her baby.. wherever they may be
Healing for my body, specifically my ability to conceive.
Anna's House Foundation - funding, and blessing to those who are serving without being paid.
Grace for James to deal with me.. and my "moods" the way God wants him to do for me.
The child that God has ordained to be "ours" and his/her safety and comforting in the Father's arms.

Sunday, October 12, 2008


Wow, what a week!
I don't know why it is that when things are down, I seem to be an easy target for being "kicked".  I can not even count the things that were supposed to happen and didn't!  It blows my mind that so many things could just go wrong, or not as I planned!
But today is a new week, and I didn't stay down.  I'd fall down and get back up, and repeat this process at least a hundred times.  Would you please pray for me?  I really think that the things that I have my hands in are really irritating to the "Enemy" of my soul.  He must be trying hard to get me to give up and say "It's too much!"  But the funny thing is this... I already know that he has LOST!  I know that he has been defeated!  And most of the times that I have been knocked down this week, it was God who picked me back up, dusted me off, and said "Ata Girl, keep on running this race!  With Me, you WILL make it the finish line!"  Don't think that I didn't shed quite a few tears.  I certainly did.  But I just love how at any time when life seems overwhelming, I can just crawl up on my Father's lap, and find rest for my weariness! He restores my soul, and makes my cup to run over.  He is the One to refuel me, by His Word and His voice!  He sends me friends and phone calls and txts and emails to remind me that I am loved and that my life is relevant.   I don't have to wonder if I am making a difference, I see all around me that my life counts.
So, rather than boor you with the mundane, I will say this... God IS good, all the time, God is GOOD!  Even the junk that the enemy throws my way, He can turn it around for MY good and HIS glory!

Sunday, October 5, 2008

Prayer for Rosetta (Rosie) Burkett

Amazing how one moment in time can change the course of your life.  This moment for me was last Sunday, September 28, 2008.  One minute, I was getting ready for our worship service at Crestwood Baptist Church, and the next, I noticed two young women walk into the auditorium and sit down.  One I thought I remembered her from somewhere, and the other seemed expectant, as if something was about to happen.

Let me back up a little.... let me go back to a very dark time in my life, March 3, 2007.  I had just been transferred from the local crisis center in Oklahoma City to the State Mental Hospital, Griffen Memorial Hospital in Norman, OK, about 30 miles away.  I was having a very hard time coping with this change, especially because of my physical condition as well.  The RSD was in full swing and as I was allergic to narcotics, I couldn't take much more than industrial strength naproxin sodium, or aka Alieve.  The doctor who diagnosed the RSD had also prescribed Lidoderm patches, which numbed the nerves somewhat, and Flexeril, which helped with the stiffness that accompanied the disorder.  I had begun to manage somewhat on a particular regimin, but going into the hospital changed all that.  But the silver lining to this dark cloud was meeting Rosie.

I first noticed that Rosie was sitting off by herself, coloring.  As I walked up to her, she instantly piqued up and asked me to look at some of her "work".  She was serious about this coloring business, and she did a very fine job of it as well.  It only took a few moments of our conversation for me to realize that Rosie was a very "special" girl.  She was in her early 20's but developmentally she seemed to be about five or six.  Upon hearing this you might think that my first reaction would be "Oh, how sad!"  But that wasn't it at all.  My heart just swelled up, and I instantly felt a connection.

Over the next three weeks, I became sort of a "Mom" to Rosie, even though in actuality we could be sisters.   I looked out for her, and I think more importantly I listened to her.  She talks about as much as a young girl who has just come home from a visit to Nanna's house.  So many things to tell you, and there just doesn't seem to be enough words to describe how she really feels.  Not for a lack in the quantity of words spoken, but the vocabulary just doesn't do justice to what she is thinking.  

When Rosie is happy and feels comfortable, her face just glows when she talks.  Almost angelic, I would say.  But when she is troubled, she scowls in confusion, like a child who doesn't understand why it is that she can't do whatever she pleases whenever she pleases.  This is the Rosie that captured my heart what seems like an eternity ago.

Shortly after leaving the hospital, I saw Rosie just one more time.  I went to where she lived in the custody of the Adult Protective Services.  She lived with a few other "special" girls in a home where there was a staff member present 24 hours a day.  But the presence of a staff member doesn't mean that Rosie felt loved and accepted.  She often during our time at the hospital told me how she was mistreated where she lived.  

One thing you have to know is your definition of mistreatment and my definition of mistreatment are going to vary.  The same is true of your definition of mistreatment and the APS definition of mistreatment.  Was she physically harmed or emotionally abused?  Those instances were never documented if they even existed.  But my definition of mistreatment is witholding love from someone who desperately needs to be loved, and that definition is nothing like the DHS definition.

My heart broke for Rosie, when upon my visit, she asked if I would ask James if she could come and live with us.  She promised that she would be "good" and would do whatever we asked her to do.  She also told me that she was a big help around the house.  She could make her own bed, and clean up after herself without being "told" to do so.  She remembered to do that very thing "almost every week, and I'm not lying!!"  She just couldn't understand why her "staff" got upset with her when she failed to do it every day like was expected of her. 

But my growing love for Rosie could not overshadow my own needs at the present time.  I still was having a hard time coping with RSD and my marriage was in trouble.  There was no way on earth that I could take care of Rosie, and James had enough on his plate taking care of me.  Rosie coming into our home was definately out of the realm of possibility.   So I left her that warm Spring day, committing her care to the only ONE who could care for her.  The Lord, whose love for her was exponentially greater.

Fast forward to the present.... After our rehearsal, I came down to where Rosie and her friend Darla were sitting.  It was then that I remembered where I had met Rosie, and the love I had for her then just flooded my heart.  After asking her if she remembered me, she said she did remember me, and guess what?  She was nine weeks pregnant.

Although I would love to continue in story form, I only have time to list what we are praying for Rosie and her baby.

1) That the baby would be born without the predicted birth defects, and severe retardation not only what could be passed by heredity, but also due to a drinking binge after finding out she was pregnant.

2) That Rosie would come to understand that she cannot have her own home and care for this baby on her own.  That she would understand that it could be better for her if someone else helped her take care of her baby.

3) That Rosie would find a permanent "home" one that meets the demands that the APS would place for her safety, but also one that would give her the love that she so desperately needs.

4)  That God would reveal to James what our role is to be in Rosie's life as well as this baby's life.  We have been asked if we would like to adopt this child, with the understanding that humanly speaking, this baby's chance of a "normal" life is very slim.  

5)  For Anna's House Foundation.  This is the decidedly Christian organization that is facilitating the placing of this baby.  You can find out more about them at  Prayerfully consider if you would like to support this ministry, not only for the costs that surround this baby's placement, but also for the other infants and children under the age of two that do not have a permanent home.  More specifically a home where they can be loved unconditionally.  Most of these children have had five placements before their first birthday.  It is for these children that my heart just breaks.

Saturday, September 20, 2008

Greetings from OKC!

I can hardly believe that we have a blog!  So many want to be kept up to date with what is happening with us, that this is the most time effective way!  And you all know how much time that we have here in the Williams Family!
So to get you started, I'll give a brief synopsis of what we've been up to, and what are plans are for the coming months!
James continues to run his studio, BWG out of our house!  It has a down side (not regular hours during the week, late nights and all nighters sometimes) but the benefits well out weigh the irregularity!  Also his weekend work continues with, as the audio engineer for the Edmond Campus worship for the Internet Campus.  He's been with that position since the start of the Internet Campus in March 2006.  He now only works there on Saturday afternoon and early evenings.  Sundays he is on the technical staff for Crossings Community Church.  His main responsibility is to mix the 10:45 service in the gym.  This is both for the worship service and the preaching.  Sometime in the next year he will be changing positions and doing the audio for a live broadcast of the services over the internet.  Similar to what he is already doing at  He also serves at Crestwood Baptist, where we are members, on the Sunday evening worship team.  He gets to use his drumming and percussion skills to bring God glory during the evening worship service.  
As for me, I am doing several things that I love.  Most importantly being a Nanny for a wonderful family in Moore, Oklahoma.  Mikal and Hale (pronounced Hailey) Sommerdorf are both active duty Air Force, recently transferred from Elmendorf AFB in Alaska.  They were stationed here when Tylur (9) was born and then transferred to Elmendorf in 2004.  Hale found out during the move that she was pregnant again (total miracle, and unexpected too) and Caden was born Christmas eve.  When Caden was 4 days old he was having regular seizures and later received a diagnosis of Cerebral Palsy and idiopathic seizure disorder.  I used to think that caring full time for a child with special needs would be very taxing.  I learned instead that caring for him is especially rewarding.  He has the most wonderful smile and laugh!  As for it being difficult?  He does have a very specific diet and schedule, but once you get into the routine, it is 10 times easier to care for Caden than it was when I cared for a more active 3 year old when I nannied in Virginia.  As for Tylur, he is so much fun to have around!  He is an awesome big brother, and so polite and responsible for only being 9!  I sometimes forget that he isn't in college already, only the 4th grade!  I told Hale the other day that my day is only 5% work and 95% fun.  I've been so blessed by them, that I eagerly get up at 5 or 5:30 most weekdays just because I can't wait to be with them!!!
In a few weeks I'll also be starting a small cooking school.  I am already a Pampered Chef consultant, so having the tools that I used during the classes available for purchase is very natural.  I have two different classes starting in October, on on Friday nights and the other on Saturday mornings.  They will be 1 1/2 hours for a 4 week session.  It's exciting as the classes are both quickly being booked!
In addition, I am a licensed agent for Farmer's Insurance.  I work under an agent out of Norman, Oklahoma, and cover the metro area.  Mostly this requires managing on my part, I am in the process having a few people doing most of the leg work and I can meet for the appointments.  Ground work is being laid now, and it should be functional in October.
At Crestwood, I am so blessed to work with the children on Wednesday nights.  I have recently accepted the calling to be the Children's Ministries Director.  Which most of the time is coordinating the other volunteers that make this ministry so successful.  I am currently teaching the 5th and 6th grades, filling in because Tiffany Tullis, the regular teacher just had her second little girl last Saturday September 13!   Also, I am doubly blessed to serve on the praise team on Sunday mornings.  What an amazing time!  I have been able to grow so much in both the gift of music and the privilege of worshipping God, authentically and freely.  I am so thankful that God allows me to be a blessing to others also.
Well, that's it for now.  Please be in prayer for my family in the Houston area.  Since hurricane Ike hit, they've been without power.  I also ask you to pray for healing for my Grandmother, Ruth Ritter.  She suffers with COPD and other related problems.  Also for my Aunt Kim and her husband Carl.  He suffered another heart attack shortly after the storm.  Thank you so much for your prayers.
Love to you all!
Victoria aka Vickie